Archive for November, 2011

Fred the Christian

Posted: November 22, 2011 in Friendships, Life

At a previous job I worked with an older Engineer named Fred. He was a nice enough guy. In his 60’s and semi-retired. He had lost a big chunk of his retirement savings when the housing bubble busted. So he was forced to keep working to make ends meet.

Fred liked to tell stories like most men. So when Fred and I were sent out to Pittsburgh for a week for a job, I had the pleasure of hearing a few of his greatest hits.  He told me about his wife and his son that they adopted. They weren’t able to conceive due to his wife being allergic to his sperm. I’ve never heard of such a thing but was interested in the details. He said they spent many thousands of dollars on specialists and laboratory work in order to “clean” his sperm of anything that his wife would be allergic to. But even after all that effort they still couldn’t conceive. So they relented and chose to adopt.

I remember one story about his son very vividly. He had a problem with his large intestine. It was over sized. So when he went to the bathroom the deposit he would leave would be very large in girth and enough to clog the bowl every time. Fred would have to go in after and use a stick or something to cut it up in order for it to flush.

So after a few hours down the road on our way to Pittsburgh, Fred drops his little religious bomb on me and says, “Don’t you believe the bible is the inspired word of god?” Ohh here we go I’m thinking. I’m trapped in his Ford Excursion for another 6 hours and this guy is starting with the religious talk. I was Christened Eastern Orthodox but personally I’m an atheist. So an atheist and a devout Christian are not the two best people to be stuck in a car together for an 8 hour drive.

My response to his statement was, “Well I’m not sure if I believe everything in the bible word for word.” “Whose to say that god and the angels mentioned in the bible weren’t alien visitors from another planet?”

I’m a big fan of Egyptian culture and history. So I told him about the story of Osiris and how and his friends came down from the sky and brought knowledge to the people. Knowledge in the form of math, science and organized agriculture(farming). Osiris was described as being a tall green “being”. When he and his friends came to Earth and landed in Egypt they were worshiped as gods. They were also described as “Men but not men” from the ancient writings.

It’s very hard for devout Christians to be open minded about anything other than their faith. I like to read and learn about all religions and pick and choose the best aspects and apply them to my daily life.

I told Fred about a Catholic friend of mine that was married to her 2nd husband. She told the priest of her church that she didn’t want any children. The priest refused to marry her based on that statement because it was against Catholic ideology. She had to recant her statement a few weeks later and say she wasn’t ready to have kids financially at this time but wanted them in the future. It was a total lie but it convinced the priest to perform the ceremony. Fred was pretty shocked to hear that. I would think the ideology of Christians and Catholics would be pretty similar and most of this stuff would be common knowledge. I guess not.

The more he went on about Christianity and his beliefs the more I felt the need to play devil’s advocate. I held back about a few things though because I felt it would have crossed a line.

I would have loved to tell him that maybe his wife’s inability to conceive was a message from god that they weren’t meant for each other. But I didn’t out of respect for the guy. I’ll debate my point of view as far as I can coming just short of being a complete asshole.

Fred was an honest and hardworking guy who lived by his beliefs and it worked for him. There’s an old saying that I like from Henry David Thoreau “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.”

That’s Fred.


Welcome fellow travelers to SOCIOANDJULIET

Posted: November 18, 2011 in Life

This is my first official blog post. I was inspired to start this blog by a fellow blogger and forum enthusiast Alpha of

SocioandJuliet is a collection of short stories and memoirs as well as my deep introspective analysis of past relationships, current friendships and views on life.

Be warned before reading any further. Some of my stories may be about YOU!!

Names have been changed to protect the innocent but I assure you the stories are real.

Let the alienation and tire slashing begin!!

Please be patient as I am working on my text messaging guide (Requested by Alpha) and I will post it as soon as I am able.